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Your underachieving teen isn't unmotivated. Like me, they may just have a hard time doing things they don't want to do
'He just doesn't try in school. His teachers have always said he's bright enough. We've tried everything - punishment, rewards, everything. Nothing seems to work. I see his future falling away from him. I just don't know how to get him motivated."
It's a question I often get from parents: How do I motivate my teen?
Yet for the great majority of teenagers who don't put much effort into their school work, the main challenge isn't motivation. In my experience, teens who appear to be slacking - "Yeah, what's wrong with working at Billions of Burgers?" - usually do want to do well in school.
So what's the problem? I have some personal insight.
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I will lose 25 pounds by July 1. I will stop smoking. I mean it.
I will have a more positive attitude. I really mean it.
Most New Year's resolutions don't make it halfway through January. And resolutions about your teenagers? You're lucky if you get past 2 o'clock in the afternoon on New Year's Day.
But resolutions are good. You just have to be realistic. The best are the ones that may actually come to pass. Here's how to distinguish them.
Impossible These resolutions go against your DNA as a parent. Don't put too much energy into keeping them and don't be too disappointed if you fail.
I will - just once - walk by where you're sitting without saying: "Did you remember to bring the dirty glasses up from the basement?" or "Don't you have any homework?"
I will not keep noticing that you have that exact same look on your face that my ex used to get when he was mad.
I will not brace myself against the dashboard every moment I am in the car with you driving. Nor will I keep making those constant sharp intakes of breath.
I will not see your unpleasant behaviour as a certain indicator of a flaw you will have as an adult and that I, consequently, have to stamp out permanently.
I will not use the phrase: "When I was your age ..."
I will not use the phrase: "You just don't know how lucky you are."
I will, just once, go to sleep before you come home.
Really hard but worth a shot These are mostly criticism-related. It's really, really hard not to comment when your teen displays undesirable behaviour. But it's worth trying to cut down on your criticism because it involves real sources of hurt and discord between you and your teen - and if you really focus on it, you do have a chance to succeed. (If you just can't help yourself, try to criticize only the things that really bother you and stay silent about everything else.)...