Dear Dr. Wolf,

My 14-year-old son “caught” my husband smoking outside. My husband quit smoking four years ago but has apparently started again without telling any of us. My son is very angry and has lost significant respect for his dad. I have tried to explain to my husband the loss of trust, but he feels our son should be able to move on. I honestly don’t know if I need more help dealing with my husband or my son. I just need to find something to help our son deal with the mistrust he is experiencing now.

Caught in Between

Dear Caught in Between,

Parents of teenagers automatically have a terrible problem: They are human beings. Which means they, like all other human beings, have flaws.

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